CARING FOR THE POORLY MOTIVATED – NEGATIVE FEELINGS

How have the negative feelings towards contraception come about in these families? Often both the women and men have grown up feeling that the world is against them. Unloved and rejected by their own parents, lacking self-esteem, feeling powerless to influence their destiny, they live from day to day, unable to plan for the future because there is no belief in a tomorrow. Impulsive behaviour and the seeking of instant gratification are natural results. Feeling as they do, undervalued by society, there is a sense that at least they can have babies. Children can take on the role, as in the case of Mrs A., of a bastion against a hostile world. A baby represents a new beginning, new hope and excitement in an otherwise unfulfilling life. The baby can represent something good that can be produced from what may be thought of as bad sex, for such a woman often has a history of sexual abuse in her own childhood.

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